Families Low on Function 1

Some words are overused.  Perhaps I should start a new phrase – “Family Low on Function” instead of the psychologically sterile “Dysfunctional Family.”  There are many examples of such families, and I am no exception to being raised in one.  It is my goal, however, to break that cycle in my current family.  I would guess I am batting about 500 or so, which, in baseball, would get a multimillion dollar contract, right?

King David.  Put into kingship by God, right?  It is proof positive that a person does not have to have all their stuff together to be used by God.  Whoo!  I feel relieved!   But did you ever wonder what  David’s family was like?  I am guessing not the best.  Let’s look at some evidence:

When Samuel came to anoint the 2nd king in Israel, he asked Jesse to bring all of his sons to him.  Samuel looks at each one, starting with the highest GQ factor first, and each time God tells Samuel “nope.”  What?  God isn’t moved by GQ factor?  Judging by God’s comment in 1 Samuel 16:7 (But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not look on his appearance or on the height of his stature, because I have rejected him. For the Lord sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart.”), I would say not!

1 Samuel 16:11-13, “Then Samuel said to Jesse, “Are all your sons here?” And he said, “There remains yet the youngest, but behold, he is keeping the sheep.” And Samuel said to Jesse, “Send and get him, for we will not sit down till he comes here.” 12 And he sent and brought him in. Now he was ruddy and had beautiful eyes and was handsome. And the Lord said, “Arise, anoint him, for this is he.” 13 Then Samuel took the horn of oil and anointed him in the midst of his brothers. And the Spirit of the Lord rushed upon David from that day forward.”

I think that is one of God’s pet projects – choosing the least to use His Power through!  Look at Mary, mother of Jesus.  Look at Gideon.  Wandering Abraham.  Fickle Peter.  I could go on, but I diverge…back to “ruddy” David.  Jesse had all of the “significant” sons come to see the Priest Samuel.  Stop.  What dad, in his “right” mind would leave a child out of this big event?  Would you leave your youngest at home and take all of the “cool” kids to the 4th of July fireworks?  Would you leave your youngest at home to watch the cats while the rest of the family went to see the president come to town?  Jesse could have set up a rotating schedule of taking care of the sheep because after all, the directions were to bring ALL of his sons.  He could have put a hired hand in charge for a day.  But there was this question in Jesse’s mind.  “David?  What can he do?  He is a runt.  He can’t do nothin.  I’ll just leave him out back with the sheeps – surely he can’t be the one God is going to anoint King, can he?”  CAN HE? I am not sure what was wrong with David’s dad, but I am sure David was quite wounded because of it.  I want to challenge each parent or parent-wannabe to think big about each of your kids.  Pray for them.  Even before they are born.  During pregnancy, speak to them.  Speak destiny into their lives.  If you teach them right, raise them right, love them right, they will have Jesus living big inside of them.

I am sure David felt hurt being left out in the cold.  Even in the summer when it is over 100 you can be left out in the cold.  And I am pretty sure this was not the first time this happened.  Neither would it be the last.  Remember Goliath is still in the future, and where was David when all of that started?  Stupid sheep.  David’s dad sent him with food for his brothers, and when he got to the battle lines, he heard Goliath’s taunts, and it bothered David.  David said, “Yo dudes, what’s up?  And why is this giant talking about God this way?  Isn’t anybody going to do anything?”  His brother reminded him.  “Dude, aren’t you supposed to be with the sheep?”  Scripture records the interchange like the typical sibling squabble in a house of kids, “What!?  Can’t I say ANYTHING??”

1 Samuel 17:26-30 “And David said to the men who stood by him, “What shall be done for the man who kills this Philistine and takes away the reproach from Israel? For who is this uncircumcised Philistine, that he should defy the armies of the living God?” 27 And the people answered him in the same way, “So shall it be done to the man who kills him.”

28 Now Eliab his eldest brother heard when he spoke to the men. And Eliab’s anger was kindled against David, and he said, “Why have you come down? And with whom have you left those few sheep in the wilderness? I know your presumption and the evil of your heart, for you have come down to see the battle.” 29 And David said, “What have I done now? Was it not but a word?” 30 And he turned away from him toward another, and spoke in the same way, and the people answered him again as before.”

You gotta love the judgementalism in Eliab’s words.  All he does is see David there, and he judges David as being there with “presumption” and “evil.”  They definitely need some time away from each other!  Kids pick up from parental attitudes.  I think Eliab was only echoing his father’s attitude about David.  Ever known someone who was the butt of jokes?  You know when you are the runt, and always picked on by your brothers, and then left with the [stupid] sheep day after day, you get to talk a lot to God.  Sometimes you can hear Him when He talks back to you!  This is where the lifeline of David was developed with God.  All you have to do is read the Psalms of David and you can hear his communion with his God.  This is marked by his response to his brothers above:  “For who is this uncircumcised Philistine, that he should defy the armies of the living God?”  Did you catch the adjective there?  “Living…”  God is alive and well with David.  From a relationship forged through time in the wilderness with God, through the dysfunctional familial relationships where David cried out to God, through the threats on his life from a lion and a bear, David and God were close.  If your family is low on function, God is high on it!  When David’s dad left him in the cold, God will not!  When his brothers wrongly judged him, God will not!   When people thought lowly of David, God will not!  Break the cycle of low function!  Plug into the functional God!

About Rick Mauderer

I am a recovering public school administrator who has an addiction to crunching data and running statistical analyses on that data, and making informed decisions based upon those analyses. I do the same thing with God's Word. I comb it to discover the heart of God - the love of God expressed in the pages of that book. Then, I allow that love to transform my life, and then seek to touch the lives of others with it. God's Word is truly Powerful! When I find myself in a sticky situation, and my experience seems to contradict God's Word, I will always stick with God's Word, because my situation will end, but Jesus Himself said "God's Word lasts forever." It changes lives. In fact, "that's what God do!" He changes lives. He started changing mine 30 years ago, and by His grace I have beaten the odds and statistics of children raised in abusive, alcoholic homes, and other life-besetting circumstances. Those things do not define my life. God does. I will always do my best to believe God's report, not the world's. As I let Him have total control, I allow Him to continue to change my life - for the good. Join me on the journey! Be blessed this day with all the love and peace God has in store for you!

Posted on August 17, 2011, in Low on Function and tagged . Bookmark the permalink. Leave a comment.

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